Boston Marathon Bombing and Human Reactions

As the shock and emotions of yesterday’s bombing of the Boston Marathon begin to settle, I’m beginning to see the start of the demand of self-censoring, among my friends at least. Not demanding censoring of the graphic images of the aftermath, but of the thoughts and opinions of those who deign to speculate on such an awful act. A desire to restrict free speech to make one feel better, or prevent fear mongering is a little over the top, in my opinion. I can’t suggest a blanket approach to making one feel better, aside from avoiding the internet entirely, turning off all TVs and radios, and huddling in a dark corner while the event fades in to history. Others will wish to talk, humans have an insatiable need to talk things out. Fear mongering can be mitigated through verifiable facts, and refusal to allow such mongering to be taken seriously in the first place. We need not silence everyone. We merely need to talk responsibly, and remind other to do so.

As humans, we have several reactions to traumatic events. Emotional outbursts of anger, rage, sadness, fear. Many of us use one coping mechanism or another to help process such events. Some withdraw and privately contemplate, or avoid the subject and those discussing it. And some talk about it, to many different degrees. Communicating feelings, thoughts and theories after traumatic events, as far-removed as a person is from them, can help greatly in a person’s ability to process the event.

I am a poster on many kinds of forums, and time and again, I see the practical application of this ‘group therapy’, if you will, after traumatic events where a poster must talk about it to ‘get it out’. This kind of chatter between people isn’t unwise, it’s helpful. When many come together to discuss something such as the Boston bombing, we’re aiming to help each other find relevant factual information, and to keep the more emotionally devastated from completely flipping their shit. Invariably, there is always going to be one or some who take the conspiracy route to try to vindicate their own theories. In my experience, those prone to similar thoughts are bound to flock together. Stitching theories together and speculating on ulterior motives is yet another variant coping mechanism for people. It is not to say they’re bat shit crazy, but more reluctant to take the more ‘vanilla’ explanations at face value because surely there must be a deeper reason for such carnage against innocents. I don’t personally subscribe to the false flag theories abound right now, but it’s their theory and they are free to have it.

Unlike my friends, I will not tell others not to speculate. I am a logical person, and do expect logic from people joining my conversations. As such, I’ll listen to harebrained theories, but don’t give them much credit. Everyone is entitled to their opinion, and in the end, it is the participant’s responsibility to figure out if the information and ideas are bunk and whether or not to believe them.

Requiring silence from others accomplishes nothing.

 

Who Picks a Blog Name Like This??

I do, that’s who. I’m Melosia (but just call me Mel) It’s a handle, not my real name. And no, I’m not Hispanic, Latina, Spanish. Evidently ‘Melosia’ is a Spanish name that means ‘Sweet’, something I did not know when I thought I was coming up with a unique handle. Oh well. I tried.

Why would I call my blog ‘It’s Probably Boring to You’? Because that’s what runs through my head when I start out a conversation on a science or historical topic and so forth. It was either that, or I could have called it ‘I’m Probably The Only One Interested in This.’ It’s a sad reflection in the states of interest of those whom I talk to. It’s apparent that if it’s not Lindsay Lohan’s latest D.U.I, or having to do with Honey-fucking-boo-boo, that it’s of no significance. That’s where this little digital nook comes in.

I’m going to try to bring news stories and under-discussed topics to the table. I may want to write about ancient culture A., or I may want to share an article about a scientific finding, or a leap in technology. Or maybe I might want to suggest a site, or just rant & fume about something. Or maybe I might want to share something completely off-topic once in a while. I have a few ideas on tap as it is, so in the near future, I will be posting them.

A word of warning – – I’m not much of a writer. I ramble. And I do so when the mood strikes me. This doesn’t equal regularly posting, it basically means ‘whenever the hell Mel feels like it’. Therefore, until whenever I feel like next time is, ciao.